I was horrified to read this article this morning, after feeling all warm inside yesterday seeing Bullrush was edging its way back into New Zealand schools finding this gem was a real blot on my New Zealand rocks score card!
A father-son bonding session planned by a North Island primary school was cancelled after a single mother demanded to be included.
Two “Band of Brothers” seminars were arranged by Matakana School to help fathers get more involved in their sons’ lives, and as a forum for dads to share their issues. One session was for dads and another was for fathers and sons.
A solo mum wanted to attend but was told she couldn’t because her presence would inhibit discussion. She was told a mother and son seminar was planned for later in the year.
“We really just wanted an opportunity for the guys to open up and chat, and they wouldn’t particularly want to do if there were females around – which I think is understandable,” said principal Darrel Goosen.
The woman’s son was welcome at the second seminar and the guest speaker offered a specific session with her and her son but she continued to insist on attending, Goosen said, so the school board decided to cancel the event.
This woman is so incredibly selfish, I am lost for words.
My father has been running Men’s Breakfast sessions for years at our local school. Providing Dads a chance to discuss issues, learn about communication and strive to be better fathers. This ‘mother’ is a solo Mum, I am sure she has had no end of hardship, but this does not give her the right to demean all fathers at Matakana School and say they can’t learn to be better fathers. Oh but wait, it gets worse
“I think the fact they were having other programmes specifically for mums shows that they are not ignoring their needs.
“Schools are starting to realise the importance of dads being actively involved in the education of their kids.”
Other parenting experts said male-only groups were important to get men talking.
So there were sessions planned for her later in the year but still she wanted to tear fathers away from this valuable learning session. In this age of terrible stories like families beating kids literally to death or putting kids in washing machines to shut them up or for fun should we not be doing all we can to add sensible ideas to fathers toolkits?
Hat tip: Kiwiblog